Where are the men? Masculinity in the crosshairs.

I don’t understand all these blue pill ads, on social media, billboards, movie trailers, TV screens. They’re plastered everywhere. I’m almost 60 and have no issue in that department.

But younger men seem to be buying into this trend. Why?

Maybe it’s the toxic food, laced with synthetic estrogen. Maybe it’s the classrooms, where kids are taught to pick their gender like it’s a game. Maybe it’s the cellphones that are rewiring their brains.

Or maybe it’s the broader culture, this narrative that masculinity is a problem to be solved.

The media, mostly left-leaning, woke, and curated by a blend of corporate interests, white liberal women, and identity hires, pushes a worldview where traditional masculinity is the enemy. The goal? Eliminate the so-called patriarchal society.

But let’s take a moment. That “patriarchal society” and all its conveniences were created mostly by men.

Infrastructure, houses, universities and manufacturing where all the life’s little modern conveniences come from. Trains, planes, automobiles, and motorcycles, the list is endless.

And many of these incredible men, were also sacrificed in part, by war. The sacrifice of over a million young men killed or crippled in World War II. Their absence during war pushed women into the workforce out of necessity, not rebellion.

And it didn’t stop there. In Korea, over 150,000 more of our young men were killed or wounded supporting the South, so we buy Kias, plastics, semiconductors and the like. 

Then came Vietnam, a war we didn’t create, but inherited by bailing out the French.

That war scarred hundreds of thousands more young American men, disproportionately poor whites and black, sent off under the same president signing civil rights legislation.

Hypocrisy wrapped in patriotism.

By 1970, women made up 38% of the workforce. It wasn’t an attack on men, it was survival. Due to war many men didn’t come back and if they did couldn’t cope in society anymore. 

But over time, cultural movements twisted that survival into ideology. 

An ideology that men weren’t needed and women could do it better.  A philosophy without legs. 

That’s when the resentment toward straight men, the seeds of modern wokeness, started to grow.

Now? Women dominate higher education. College enrollment has tilted in their favor by over 1.5 million since the late 1970s. Women are on par with men in the media, when they were only 10–15% of that industry in the 1950s.

And yet, somehow, men are the problem?

Meanwhile, social media has enabled a generation to profit off sexual performance, scantily clad, suggestive, sometimes explicit, and then demand not to be looked at unless you pay for the privilege. It’s a cultural contradiction, and men are walking on eggshells through it.

But this isn’t a call to war, it’s a call to strength with respect.

To the men who love women, but don’t want to be one.

To the providers, the protectors, the lovers, the builders.

To the gentlemen who still open doors and carry burdens, not because they’re told to, but because it’s in their blood.

We don’t need to scream. We need to lead, by example.

We don’t need to dominate. We need to stand firm, with backbone and grace.

Let’s not surrender our masculinity to appease a loud minority of self-righteous voices. Let’s reclaim it, not as bullies, but as men of purpose.

Because we can support women with integrity, love and without surrendering who we are.

And we don’t need anyone’s permission to be men.

I’m a man

And I love it. 

And frozen eggs have no guarantee. 

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Published by diestl

Freemason and father of two boys and a girl, living in Los Angeles, California. Emerson College Alumni always looking for a new adventure. Eight years of Catholic school, now Taoist leaning trying to be Zen in my journey of life.

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